Monday, 7 April 2008

New Look

I've had my hair cut. I also had it washed and blow dried and when we got home I asked my younger daughter to take a photo of me, as I know I shall not look this good again until I next visit the hairdressers, or get my daughter to style it. With me it's a good day if I manage to run a brush through my unruly locks before I walk out the front door in the morning.

I don't know if I am alone in this respect but, despite the fact that I am usually much older than most of the hairdressers who have cut my hair, I invariably feel quite threatened by them. I don't believe I have ever emerged from a salon having achieved the look I wanted. Perhaps that's not really surprising as I'm never altogether sure of what I want to begin with. So I just go along with whatever it is they suggest, the result of which is that it is rarely me at the end, just someone who looks like me, only a bit more stylish (well, the hair at any rate!)

Anyway after I've slept on it and the serum(!) has worn off, it will be back to normal tomorrow.


  1. Excellent (good job you posted a photo, so I'll be able to recognise you tonight)! With blokes (well, me at least!), getting a haircut produces the opposite reaction - you come out of the barbers feeling incredibly self-conscious and instantly want to roughen up the "much too-tidy" results of the barber's efforts!

  2. This is so funny!

    - Explanation -

    Because your name is Gareth, I've always assumed you are a man.

    And, from time to time, I've drawn my husband's attention to the way this 'Dad' 'Gareth' puts flowers in the house to inspire his children . . . and makes them fruit salad for when they come in from school . . . and is concerned about the world and the environment . . .

    (My husband is an extremely good father - so the intention was not to show how he could 'do better' but because I thought he would be glad to know there was another Dad in the world as caring and as thoughtful as he is. Sometimes, I think it can be a bit lonely for dads who are truly involved with the life of their families / children - so this was about 'fellow feeling'.)

    And, now I see your photo - you are a woman!

    Anyway - the reason I'm here at all is because I have been so busy with other things recently that I have been loosing touch with people who read SHOUTING AT THE RADIO . I've just worked out what 'Google Reader' is - and thought I would put 'just Gai' on it.

    Susan Harwood

  3. Your comment did make me giggle. It never crossed my mind that anyone would think I was a man. Which is very odd as I often receive letters addressed to Mr Gareth Rae and phonecallers asking to speak to Mr Rae. As a student I was once even assigned to a male dorm!

    I do hope that you're not disappointed and that that you'll continue to read and comment on my varied ramblings.

    Thanks for the link.

  4. Of course I'll continue to read your blog!

    However, I confess to being slightly disappointed that you aren't male.

    I have known many interesting and intelligent women who are involved in green issues, their inner, spiritual lives, politics, their families and all sorts of things that clearly concern you too.

    Here, I thought, was a man who had the same range of thoughts and commitments.

    I was impressed!

    I realise, through this, that I have higher expectations of women than of men.

    It's not that I value your ideas and comments any the less because you are female (!) - just that you were sort of waving a flag (in my mind) on behalf of men. Here (I thought) was proof that men could rise to greater thoughts (that kind of thing)than one usually comes to expect of them.

    This is written in a rush, with my young son marching up and down making irritating and noisy and silly noises in the not very far distant background - in fact, he is now leaning over the keyboard in front of the screeen - which is making coherent thought difficult.

    But - it is as if a piece of puzzle has fallen into place, has brought to the front of my mind that women do think differently from men (so, if you come across a man thinking like a woman - um - it probably is because it is a woman)!

    Until I had my children (a boy and a girl) I was very clear in my mind that differences between genders is almost entirely culturally inspired.

    Through my experience with my children, I discover (to my consternation) that they bring a lot of maleness / femaleness with them.

    The odd thing is, I have learnt this by my daughter being very 'pink and girly' (which I never have been).

    And then, of course, there is my husband - who is thoughtful and reflective, much less irritable than I am and who is a wonderful main carer of our children.

    (He has needed to be the first line parent - who does the cooking and takes the children to school and on adventures because I have epilepsy. If I fall into a saucepan or keel over when I am meant to be looking after the children - well, it can be unsafe.)

    Because you have comment moderation, I have written at greater length than I would usually in one of these boxes (and even then, I don't think I have completely grasped what I am trying to say).

    You do't need to 'publish' it!

    (But I have no objection to you doing so either.)

    Best wishes and

    I look forward to reading more of your comments on SHOUTING AT THE RADIO . I am always pleased when I see you have 'said' something.